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A Brief
Exploration of the Stages of Grief in "Stairway to Heaven"
experience level: intermediate - you've written some short scripts
The Short Film,
"Stairway to Heaven"
In post-production as of this writing,
"Stairway to Heaven" is an exploration of redemption. The film's
logline reads: "A man, separated from his wife and
bound for the afterlife down elevator, goes searching for his love and
discovers something of himself along the way."
It is this exploration of the man's
arduous journey and his passage through the stages of grief that we examine
in this article. The following discussion depends on familiarity with the
28-page "Stairway to Heaven" script.
read the script (pdf)
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Defining the Stages of Grief
In her 1969 book, “On
Death and Dying,” Dr. Elisabeth Kübler-Ross, a Thanatologist, Writer,
Researcher, and Activist for the bereaved and dying defined the process of
grieving. In her definition, she identified
the five stages of grief:
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Denial
- In the denial stage, you refuse to believe what has happened. You try
in your mind to tell yourself that life is as it was before your loss.
You may make believe by re-enacting rituals that you used to go through
before the loss. If a trauma is sufficiently severe, you might actually
experience physiological shock as your brain acts to protect you from a
sudden shift in reality or physical injury.
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Anger
- You might blame others for your loss. You can become easily agitated
having emotional outbursts. You can even become angry with yourself.
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Bargaining - Bargaining can be with oneself, with another
or, if one is religious, with a deity. You may revisit the event in your
mind, repeatedly examining how you might have prevented your loss.
Often you will offer something to try to take away the reality of what
has happened. You may try to make a deal to have things as they were
before the tragic event occurred.
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Depression – This is often the longest and most difficult
stage of the five to deal with. There may be feelings of listlessness and
tiredness. One may burst helplessly into tears. Feeling like there is no
purpose to life any more. Feeling guilty, like everything is your own
fault. You may find you feel like you are being punished. Pleasure and
joy can be difficult to achieve even from things and activities which
you have always gained delight. There can even be thoughts of suicide.
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Acceptance - At some point you accept that life goes on.
You may still have thoughts of your loved one, but less intense and less
frequent. You can accept your loss. You should now be able to
regain your energy and goals for the future.
In essence, the process
of grieving is about learning to re-imagine one's life and circumstances. While Dr. Kübler-Ross’
focus was on coming to terms with death, her five stages of grief have been
and may be applied to any situation in which a person has to cope with a
change in their reality that requires a shift in imagination.
That change in reality
might be mundane: A smashed finger:
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“Ow! I can’t believe I did
that!”
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“Damn it!”
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“If I could just watch where I
was going, I wouldn’t have stumbled, thrust out my hand, and…”
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“Now it’s going to be all ugly
for the next two weeks.”
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“Well, okay. It’s not like I was
hit by a car.”
Or much more profound:
Being hit by a car:
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Physical and emotional shock,
disorientation, focusing on “normal” details rather than addressing more
immediate issues of survival.
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“I’m such an idiot! No wait,
YOU’RE an idiot!”
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“If that driver would just have
paid attention, he would have noticed me standing here.”
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“I’m going to miss dancing with
my girl with my leg in a cast.”
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“Oh well. It's not like I was
killed.”
Unfortunately for the William Porterhouse,
the protagonist of "Stairway to Heaven", he is dead -- after having
been hit by a train! William has a bit more to come to
terms with, and a long journey of grieving and personal discovery before he
is finished.
William Porterhouse's
Grieving Process
William Porterhouse’s
journey is one of grieving the loss of his life, his authority, his power,
his wife, the possibility of a comfortable afterlife, and the realization
that he is not the person he imagined himself to be. He copes with each of
these losses as well as the continuous series of setbacks and
disappointments he faces in the crucible of the stairwell. Even the
discovery of a locked door results in a mini arc of grief;
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Denial
- He tries the door and instinctively gives it
another tug.
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Bargaining - He refuses to believe
the door is locked and tries to wrench it open.
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Anger
- Frustrated by his failure, he lashes out
at the door or nearby wall.
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Depression - He takes a moment to
come to terms with his failure to open the door.
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Acceptance - He resolves to move on and
try the next.
We do not necessarily
experience the five stages of grief in a single, linear arc. Very often, we
loop around and around, as we re-examine and dissect the tragedy in our
minds. The more profound the trauma, the more loops we experience.
While a real person would be dwelling upon and looping through many layers
of the grief process, we don’t have time to tell that complicated a story in twenty-eight
pages. So, William’s journey is simplified into a somewhat linear arc of
grief with opportunities for smaller arcs of grief that serve as clear reactions to
setbacks.
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Denial
- As we first encounter William in the afterlife elevator lobby, he
doesn't even realize he's dead. Or if he does, he has it severely
buried in his psyche. Yet he is boiling with anger - at being
late, at being inconvenienced, at every little setback he has ever
encountered during his harried life. A foreshadowing of his fate,
another petitioner being thrown, bodily, into an elevator, leaves
William feeling a bit uneasy, but he's still not ready to face the
truth. It isn't until William suffers a blow to the head, after
being hurled out of the upward-bound elevator, that he remembers what
happened.
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Bargaining - William's first tactic upon realizing his
death, is to try and negotiate his way away from the guards.
They're having none of it, but William isn't ready to be consigned to
hell quite so fast. He manages to escape the guards and dash into
a nearby stairwell in pursuit of Sarah who is riding on the up-bound
elevator. Perhaps he can catch her on an upper floor.
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Anger
- Amongst the insults William suffers in the stairwell, is the
attentions of a homeless man. The bum seems to know an awful lot
about William and keeps asking inconvenient questions. At one
point, William, tired of being needled about things he doesn't want to
think about, lashes out, if only to shut him up for
a moment. But William can't escape the truth of his wasted life
that easily. He takes out his anger on everything around him, the
bum, walls, doors. Everything is out to stop him from achieving
his goals and he is getting truly pissed.
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Depression - Seeing Sarah cry during the Christmas tree
trimming - something he never witnessed when he was alive - stuns
William into silence. This is the first time that he becomes a
thinking animal. He begins to admit, for the first time,
that he may not have led his life as well as he could have. But it
isn't until the hammer blow of witnessing his death once again, that
William truly descends into depression. This lands William right
back in the lap of the homeless man where he begins to truly think about
where he went wrong.
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Acceptance - The Judge has granted William one last interview
with Sarah. It is during this goodbye that William finally accepts
his fate. He now understands that he is unworthy of going with
Sarah and that he deserves to be consigned to hell. His final act
of acceptance is stepping on the down elevator and pressing the
bottom-most button.
Every step of the way, William must fight
for what he believes he deservers. But he is destined for
disappointment until he undergoes a shift in imagination. He has to
re-imagine himself as a humbler creature, undeserving of Heaven, before he
becomes truly worthy of ascension. It is only after truly consigning
himself to damnation that obstacles disappear and William may step
toward a brighter future.
Have fun out there! -
Michael Morlan |